My daughter has gymnastics on Saturdays, however, we had a lot going on over the past few months and she ended up missing a significant number of lessons. Her first day back, my wife gets home and tells me she had a really hard time and that she got sad. Why? Well, the usual teacher wasn’t there and the substitute was not as inept at keeping track of a bunch of roaming children and my daughter had got left behind on several occasions. The owner apologized to my wife and explained the situation with the substitute, but was it her fault? I wouldn’t say so…This is a prime example of a teachable moment, and one that couldn’t have occurred in a better place. (An enclosed building with limited exits and a controlled environment with plenty of safety precautions in place…its a gymnasium after all, with loads of soft mats and foam pits). After getting the entire story from my wife, I moved to my daughter. I like to hear things from her so it gives her the opportunity to express he...
Disciplinary Actions for kids. The great debate. It seems years ago, children tended to listen significantly better to their parents in comparison to the current times. Or at the very least, they projected the semblance of being well behaved. Which is funny, because they also got the occasional ass whooping. Is that okay? Maybe, maybe not. Who knows. There’s those that will claim its good and those that will claim its not. I wasn’t one of those that got spanked, however, I did have a very close relationship with my grandparents and I can assure you, disappointing them was far worse than a hand on my ass.
I guess I ask this because I’ve had mixed results with different techniques. I have not nor do I plan to use my hand, spoon, or belt to adjust my children’s behavior, but the methods that I have incorporated seem to work some days but not others. What are these methods? They include “The conversation”- discussing and explaining in a calm manner with my daughter (my son isn’t old enough yet) and many times she just “yes mans” me and then goes right back to doing what she was doing. Sometimes, however, she vehemently obeys my suggestions, understands and corrects herself. It is the sweetest thing and I wonder if her behavior has indefinitely shifted…..until 30 minutes later. Ha.
Other times, I’ve tried time out… that worked when she was two, now its a big joke and a “challenge accepted” moment where she sees how much she can get away with while in the corner. It’s really quite hilarious, and that’s one of my greatest problems. I can’t stop myself from chuckling at some of the things these kids do that are completely unacceptable but undeniably funny. So ultimately, the whole time out thing is a lost cause.
So I went on to removing privileges. “No more tablet if you keep that up, dear” - worked great…the first five times. Now she says she wants to lose it. Again, super funny, but I get nowhere by laughing, so I go and hide, and laugh, and try to recoup before I go back out and give my best attempt at a stern and not at all humored voice….normally I fail.
That leaves us with the last and more effective method to date. I read about it while scrolling one day, which is the count down. The absolute mayhem it has caused is incredible. 10….9 ….8…. She thinks it's funny, no biggie…7…6….5….she's starting to think “ut oh, we’re getting closer to the end….4….3…2…”OH no, what will I lose when you get to one??” As she runs as fast as she can to do what was requested of her. IT is Glorious! The sheer suspense that occurs in those ten seconds as she scurries is so frustrating for her yet so enjoyable for me hahaha.
I hope if you try this final method, you have as much success as I have. Because we all deserve a good laugh from our end once in a while. And of course, if you have any other methods that work best for you, do please share in the comments section.
I guess I ask this because I’ve had mixed results with different techniques. I have not nor do I plan to use my hand, spoon, or belt to adjust my children’s behavior, but the methods that I have incorporated seem to work some days but not others. What are these methods? They include “The conversation”- discussing and explaining in a calm manner with my daughter (my son isn’t old enough yet) and many times she just “yes mans” me and then goes right back to doing what she was doing. Sometimes, however, she vehemently obeys my suggestions, understands and corrects herself. It is the sweetest thing and I wonder if her behavior has indefinitely shifted…..until 30 minutes later. Ha.
Other times, I’ve tried time out… that worked when she was two, now its a big joke and a “challenge accepted” moment where she sees how much she can get away with while in the corner. It’s really quite hilarious, and that’s one of my greatest problems. I can’t stop myself from chuckling at some of the things these kids do that are completely unacceptable but undeniably funny. So ultimately, the whole time out thing is a lost cause.
So I went on to removing privileges. “No more tablet if you keep that up, dear” - worked great…the first five times. Now she says she wants to lose it. Again, super funny, but I get nowhere by laughing, so I go and hide, and laugh, and try to recoup before I go back out and give my best attempt at a stern and not at all humored voice….normally I fail.
That leaves us with the last and more effective method to date. I read about it while scrolling one day, which is the count down. The absolute mayhem it has caused is incredible. 10….9 ….8…. She thinks it's funny, no biggie…7…6….5….she's starting to think “ut oh, we’re getting closer to the end….4….3…2…”OH no, what will I lose when you get to one??” As she runs as fast as she can to do what was requested of her. IT is Glorious! The sheer suspense that occurs in those ten seconds as she scurries is so frustrating for her yet so enjoyable for me hahaha.
I hope if you try this final method, you have as much success as I have. Because we all deserve a good laugh from our end once in a while. And of course, if you have any other methods that work best for you, do please share in the comments section.
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